Her story was told again in 2015:
In 1944, Margaret Perkins’ love for a young Canadian soldier was so strong she said goodbye to her family and her country to move to Canada, not knowing if the soldier she loved was alive or dead.
In 1939 Margaret Perkins aged 19 was working in a factory making shoeboxes. She lived a simple life with her mother and grandfather on High Street in Rushden, Northamptonshire, England.
“At that time we had the odd air raid and periodically the sirens would sound. Every now and then a couple of German bombs hit our town, but not our street. There was a lot of damage, injuries and a couple of deaths. But that was our normal,” said Marg.
In the autumn of the same year, Bill Bristow lived in Blenheim, Ontario, Canada. The 19-year-old had just joined the Royal Canadian Regiment. Bill was in the 1 Division Canadian Army Advance Party arriving in England on December 17, 1939.
Marg met Bill at a band concert, in Hall Park on a beautiful Sunday afternoon in May 1940. The Division was billeted in Rushden in private homes. They sat and talked and then arranged to see each other again.
“His birthday was October 14 and mine was October 17. He was 20 and I was 20. That seemed so romantic and important at the time, like we were meant to meet,” laughed Marg.
Lance Corporal Bill Bristow was here for about two weeks when there were developments on the war front, and one morning the Canadians left suddenly.
“During the time Bill was in my town we met every day and saw each other as often as we could. So, in July when he came back on a 48-hour pass and asked me to marry him I said yes,” said Marg.
As the young couple was only 20 they needed permission to be married, Marg from her mother, and Bill from his commanding officer. They were thrilled when permission was granted and they made plans to marry that September. Marg’s grandfather, [John Thomas Denton] gave her his clothing coupons and she was able to buy a white wedding dress with all the accessories.
The Battle of Britain threatened to spoil their plans. Leave was cancelled and Bill was called to duty. So letters were the only means of communication and they were not regular. Against the odds Marg obtained a marriage licence that carried an expiry date of October 31. But when the day came and went with no sign of Bill Marg thought perhaps he had changed his mind, so she didn’t bother to renew the licence, and it cost money.
Late on Friday, November 1, a dirty and tired Bill showed up, and they were without a licence. It was the weekend, and the office was closed.
“Then on Monday morning, when we finally had the paper in hand, we learned we had to wait 24 hours to be married, I suppose, in case we changed our minds. We held our breath thinking Bill would have to leave on short notice. Finally, we managed to be married on November 5, 1940. I was officially a war bride,” said Marg.
Bill only had seven-days leave and by the time they got the license, the newlyweds had only three days together as man and wife before Marg had to kiss her Canadian husband good-bye.
He was often away on duty, but they did spend that first Christmas together. Rabbits were not rationed in 1940, so Marg bought a rabbit. She had never cooked one before and Bill had never eaten one, but they were together and that was all that mattered to them.
Marg gave birth to a daughter, Anne on January 21st, 1942. Bill obtained a leave pass and came to see them. Then he was away again, and Marg was alone in their small house with their tiny baby. Son John was born on Oct 28, 1943. Once again, Bill saw him the next day, when he was able to get home.
Bill, now Sergeant Major Bristow, went to France with the Essex Scottish just after D-Day.
“In July I received a telegram from the Canadian government saying Bill was missing and believed killed in action. I think you can imagine how I felt. In reality Bill had been captured in Caen, France. He was a prisoner of war, and I thought he was dead,” said Marg.
After Marg had married to Bill, she started to correspond with his mother and father in Canada. The day after they married she had sent the top tier of their wedding cake to his parents. Marg promised Bill if anything happened to him she would take the children and live with his parents in Canada, and if she did not like it she would return to England.
“It was around September when we heard the most amazing news. Bill was alive and in Stalag IV-B. We had felt certain he was dead as another soldier from Bill’s hometown had seen him covered in blood, laying in a ditch. Bill had been wounded, but the blood was not his. By the time we heard he was alive his name was already on a commemorative plaque in the town square. He was listed as a fallen soldier, and I believe it’s still there,” explained Marg.
In spite of Bill being held at a German PoW camp, he and Marg were able to correspond, to some extent. He sent mostly using letter forms. Marg didn’t think many of her letters were received, and guessed what Bill saw had been censored. Eventually Bill ended up in Stalag XIIA, close to the Russian border and all correspondence stopped.
In December 1944, the Canadian government contacted Marg and told her arrangements were being made for her and the children to travel to Canada.
“I had to make the decision very quickly. I had no idea if Bill was alive or dead. I decided we would go to Canada. By this time I had a three-year-old and an 18 month-old. I wrote to Bill of my decision, but of course I never heard back,” said Marg.
After she received the train tickets to go to Liverpool Marg said goodbye to her mother and her grandfather, knowing she would not see her dear 85-year-old grandfather again. He died several months later.
They stayed overnight in Liverpool and the next day they boarded the Cunard Line RMS Franconia. The fully-appointed ocean liner had just returned from taking Churchill and Eisenhower to the Crimean Conference.
“We had two bunks, top and bottom. I put the children at each end in the bottom bunk and slept on the top one. The food was wonderful, things we hadn’t seen for years and some we had never seen. We went in a convoy. There were U-Boats everywhere. At times we wondered if we would make it across,” said Marg.
They docked at the famous Pier 21 in Halifax. From there, they boarded a train to Ontario.
“In Quebec we were held up as trains full of troops had to get past us. It was night time. We could see the lights of Quebec city in the distance. It was magical. We hadn’t seen lights at night in years. We just sat looking out the train windows at those twinkling lights for hours. I was wishing Bill was there to see it with me,” said Marg.
It turned out, that Bill had escaped from the prison camp just as the allied troops advanced. He wandered around for a couple of weeks with other prisoners. He often told the story of eating raw turnips and potatoes in a field to survive. The Canadian soldiers were officially liberated on May 9, 1945, and the injured were taken to hospital in London.
“He had not heard from me in a very long time. When he was well enough he got a pass from the hospital and travelled to Rushden looking for us. Imagine how he felt when he got off the bus and was told we were no longer in England anymore. His family had moved to Canada,” said Marg.
Bill returned to Canada in August on the ocean liner SS Ile-de-France, and was finally reunited with his family. He then spent three months in the Veterans Westminster Hospital before joining the Chatham, Ontario Police Force.
For the rest of his life Bill suffered the effects of the malnutrition and shrapnel in his shoulder. He died in 1965 due to the injuries he’d sustained in the war, aged just 45.
Marg’s in-depth understanding of the complexities of being a military spouse secured her an invitation to participate in Women and War, A Panel Discussion, presented by PeaceQuest in partnership with the Thousand Islands Playhouse in Gananoque, Ontario.
Margaret Perkins Bristow Eaton in 2015 aged 94 years old, moved from her apartment into a retirement home. The vivacious war bride was still active in her community, and speaking at events and Remembrance Day ceremonies in schools.
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